Well life went to hell in a handbasket Thursday night. Becker was only doing a half shift in the cab as he had his first class (English of all things lol) Friday morning. He is looking to finish his year 10 level. He got interrupted by a phone call from his mother to say her step-father (who was more like a father) was loosing his battle with cancer. He had beaten it a number of years earlier but it had come back with a vengeance. Doctors had only given him 2 years with all the intervention available. This time their estimate was wrong because he only lasted a couple of months. The phone call Thursday night was to say the doctors had given him 24 hours. Again they overestimated as he died within a couple of hours. Now I am not having a go at the doctors because they can only guess and I sure as hell wouldn't want to be the one trying to guess how long a person will live.
Because Becker's mother knew he had a class Friday morning, she didn't tell him until Friday afternoon. The funeral has been scheduled for next Friday morning. I was shocked when I heard that she didn't expect him to attend the funeral in favour of going to school. I didn't realise how screwed her priorities apparently seem to be. But at least it gave me an insight on why on occasions Becker gets his priority confused. I am sorry but if you choose to have children and a family they should come first. I am not talking about providing for them even though that is important. I am talking about being there when your children need you, about knowing that you love them and that they are the most important thing in your world.
I grew up as a latchkey kid and so did Becker but at least I had to advantage of an older sister for company (even if she did make my life miserable) and access to our house. Becker would be expected to sit on the front door step waiting for his mother or step-father to come home and let him in. Not something I think is healthy for any child!
Sunday, March 18, 2007
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
Internet Relationships
I find internet relationships curious. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against meeting and forming relationships with people online. After all Becker and I met online and we have been together for 6 1/2 years.
The part I find curious is how people are actually more interested in reading what strangers have to say than they do what their partners/family/friends have to say, think or feel.
Case in point, I know someone who actually looks forward to reading a certain stranger's blog and actually seems to get a kick out of being told that the blogger would like to date them etc yet has completely missed the boat when it comes to the home front. Let's be honest, how many of you know more about people on the internet than you do about your own family? Do you know what they like and dislike, what their dreams for the future is? What they want out of life? Where they want that life to be and why and how much they want it? Do you know what your kid's favourite colour or food is? Who their best friend is? Yet some people are actually more interested in intimately knowing internet strangers than they are in knowing those they are supposed to love. And let's not forget the commenting. Does a loved one have a blog that you couldn't be bothered commenting on when you have a lot of comments to leave other people?
There is a common title of "computer widow" but I think it needs to be broadened to not just those who are lonely from having a partner who spends a lot of time at the computer but to those who also have relationships fail because of the internet or even who have mediocre relationships because the attention is focused elsewhere and even on someone else.
I also know first hand personally and through friends how developing online relationships actually hurts their real life relationships. It is a tough balancing act.
And what is it guys with having to save porn on the computer? For those of us who aren't model material it is a real blow knowing that we don't and can't look like that and that is the standard we are being compared to and more than likely found lacking. I also feel in some ways it is disrespectful to the woman that you state that you love and cherish. After all, come on guys! How many of you would be accepting of us ladies filling up the hard drive with lean, muscled, posing men?
Better jump off my soapbox, not sure I would stop if I really went deep on this line of thought!
The part I find curious is how people are actually more interested in reading what strangers have to say than they do what their partners/family/friends have to say, think or feel.
Case in point, I know someone who actually looks forward to reading a certain stranger's blog and actually seems to get a kick out of being told that the blogger would like to date them etc yet has completely missed the boat when it comes to the home front. Let's be honest, how many of you know more about people on the internet than you do about your own family? Do you know what they like and dislike, what their dreams for the future is? What they want out of life? Where they want that life to be and why and how much they want it? Do you know what your kid's favourite colour or food is? Who their best friend is? Yet some people are actually more interested in intimately knowing internet strangers than they are in knowing those they are supposed to love. And let's not forget the commenting. Does a loved one have a blog that you couldn't be bothered commenting on when you have a lot of comments to leave other people?
There is a common title of "computer widow" but I think it needs to be broadened to not just those who are lonely from having a partner who spends a lot of time at the computer but to those who also have relationships fail because of the internet or even who have mediocre relationships because the attention is focused elsewhere and even on someone else.
I also know first hand personally and through friends how developing online relationships actually hurts their real life relationships. It is a tough balancing act.
And what is it guys with having to save porn on the computer? For those of us who aren't model material it is a real blow knowing that we don't and can't look like that and that is the standard we are being compared to and more than likely found lacking. I also feel in some ways it is disrespectful to the woman that you state that you love and cherish. After all, come on guys! How many of you would be accepting of us ladies filling up the hard drive with lean, muscled, posing men?
Better jump off my soapbox, not sure I would stop if I really went deep on this line of thought!
Monday, March 12, 2007
Bonus!
I got lucky today. No, I didn't get sex lol. However I did manage to score a singer treadle sewing machine. Very much like the one my Mum had sitting in the sunroom when I was a kid. And yes I do know how to use one even though I am not looking at using this one any time soon. My kids wouldn't leave me alone long enough to concentrate lol. Besides with the amount of sewing I can end up doing at times I would get very tired legs lol. Just this weekend I finished up 3 pairs of shorts for Eddie for school. They are even in the big school colours! When I told him that he had 3 pairs of shorts for school he looked at me like I had grown an extra head before loftily informing me that he can only wear one pair to school not three! Well wasn't I put in my place! Rofl The joys of kids is learning their logic, the joys of innocence I guess.
Anyway this cabinet has 3 drawers on both sides and the machine is white (my mum's was black). The finish isn't the best but it looks a hell of a lot better now all the dirt has been washed off. It had been sitting out in a shed for god knows how many years. My friend was going to dump it in a council clean up bin. Joys of having a mid life crisis. In 2 weeks he walks out without any warning or even bothering to tell his partner of 9 years that he is going. Takes only his clothes and wants nothing from the house (at least for now) and becomes a complete and utter bastard. We are neighbours and yes I am good friends with his partner but he hasn't even bothered to stay in contact even when I make the effort so stuff him. He can go and have his tantrum and when he gets over it I may or may not still be ready for a friendship.
Well my bed is singing my song so night all!
Anyway this cabinet has 3 drawers on both sides and the machine is white (my mum's was black). The finish isn't the best but it looks a hell of a lot better now all the dirt has been washed off. It had been sitting out in a shed for god knows how many years. My friend was going to dump it in a council clean up bin. Joys of having a mid life crisis. In 2 weeks he walks out without any warning or even bothering to tell his partner of 9 years that he is going. Takes only his clothes and wants nothing from the house (at least for now) and becomes a complete and utter bastard. We are neighbours and yes I am good friends with his partner but he hasn't even bothered to stay in contact even when I make the effort so stuff him. He can go and have his tantrum and when he gets over it I may or may not still be ready for a friendship.
Well my bed is singing my song so night all!
Sunday, March 11, 2007
Welcome to my madhouse!
Welcome to you poor suckers who find there way to this strange madhouse! I can't promise it will be exciting or philisophical or even very sexy. I am simply a stay at home mum with a million very important things running around in my head and a bucket full of stress in my chest. All you other mum's (and the occasional dad) will know what I mean about the important things. Shit like what is going on at school that we have to participate in or kid's appointments or partner's commitments and on the very rare occasion something for ourselves. I have lived in Perth for 6 years but I am Qld born and bred and very homesick. I met my partner Becker on the internet and he lived with Tiffany and I in Qld for 6 months before I uprooted us to follow him back to his hometown Perth.
Don't get me wrong. I don't sit on my arse at home all day twiddling my thumbs. God I wish I did! I have a daughter Tiffany in year 6, a son Eddie in kindy (which happens to be offsite from the primary school) and a darling little whirlwind devil ahem I mean angel Tasha who has recently turned 2!
I have to admit of all the kids Tasha has to be the highest maintenance. See the problem is she likes to and thinks she can keep up with the bigger kids which results in numerous, mainly minor, injuries not least her very large pride! Given a chance she will try drowning herself while having a ring floaty simply by putting arms above head and sliding out. She will float under the water until one of us drags her into the air. Despite the supposed fright she will do the same thing only minutes later. We made the fatal mistake of enrolling her in water confidence classes to try and solve that very problem! The list with her goes on and I don't have all night lol.
Eddie is a born hoon! I have received reports from school about how he has to be told to slow down while overtaking all the other kids riding the bikes. He will egg us on in traffic telling us that someone is going to pass us and hurry up. He also tells us what speed we are allowed to be doing, when we have red or green traffic lights and that we can't make right hand turns at certain places. He has challenged us from the start. He has a lazy eye which has required 2 operations plus a looksy to try and determine if there is anything physically wrong with the eye. We have fought with him for over 2 years to wear glasses and over 3 years to wear patches. We finally have won the glasses fight for the majority of the time but the patches are out in the cold lol. At only 2 he could recognise all the letters of the alphabet as well as numbers up to 100 including counting. He could spell his name etc etc. But the worst part was his use of the computer. He can surf the net better than most adults. Lucky for us he is usually only interested in games to play. We had to lock down the computer as tight as we could work out and we still lost files thanks to him not only deleting them but finishing the process by emptying the trash bin!
Tiffany tends to be a perfectionist. With luck she will grow out of the worst of it. She gets good grades but she tends to fall behind in class trying to write perfectly etc. She prefers to write stories over solving maths problems but she writes some interesting stories. Sometimes looking at her it is hard to remember she was ever a little girl. No she isn't overweight, in fact almost the opposite. She is tall and lanky. Think the saying legs up to armpits and that's her. She isn't overly interested in sports and would rather lose herself in a good book.
We have a rather mixed family. What I believe is referred to as a modern day brady bunch. I have a son who has recently turned 17 who grew up with my parents in Qld. Tiffany was born during my very disasterous first marriage. Eddie and Tasha are Becker's and mine while Becker has 2 children from his previous marriage, a son nearly 13 and a daughter 9. Tiffany also has another half brother and sister in Qld from her father's current relationship. Makes xmas shopping a bitch let me tell you!
If you have managed to snooze your way this far then send yourself off to bed. Anything else there may be to know about me may or may not come up if and as and when I get a chance to post lol
Take care all and blessed be.
Angel
Don't get me wrong. I don't sit on my arse at home all day twiddling my thumbs. God I wish I did! I have a daughter Tiffany in year 6, a son Eddie in kindy (which happens to be offsite from the primary school) and a darling little whirlwind devil ahem I mean angel Tasha who has recently turned 2!
I have to admit of all the kids Tasha has to be the highest maintenance. See the problem is she likes to and thinks she can keep up with the bigger kids which results in numerous, mainly minor, injuries not least her very large pride! Given a chance she will try drowning herself while having a ring floaty simply by putting arms above head and sliding out. She will float under the water until one of us drags her into the air. Despite the supposed fright she will do the same thing only minutes later. We made the fatal mistake of enrolling her in water confidence classes to try and solve that very problem! The list with her goes on and I don't have all night lol.
Eddie is a born hoon! I have received reports from school about how he has to be told to slow down while overtaking all the other kids riding the bikes. He will egg us on in traffic telling us that someone is going to pass us and hurry up. He also tells us what speed we are allowed to be doing, when we have red or green traffic lights and that we can't make right hand turns at certain places. He has challenged us from the start. He has a lazy eye which has required 2 operations plus a looksy to try and determine if there is anything physically wrong with the eye. We have fought with him for over 2 years to wear glasses and over 3 years to wear patches. We finally have won the glasses fight for the majority of the time but the patches are out in the cold lol. At only 2 he could recognise all the letters of the alphabet as well as numbers up to 100 including counting. He could spell his name etc etc. But the worst part was his use of the computer. He can surf the net better than most adults. Lucky for us he is usually only interested in games to play. We had to lock down the computer as tight as we could work out and we still lost files thanks to him not only deleting them but finishing the process by emptying the trash bin!
Tiffany tends to be a perfectionist. With luck she will grow out of the worst of it. She gets good grades but she tends to fall behind in class trying to write perfectly etc. She prefers to write stories over solving maths problems but she writes some interesting stories. Sometimes looking at her it is hard to remember she was ever a little girl. No she isn't overweight, in fact almost the opposite. She is tall and lanky. Think the saying legs up to armpits and that's her. She isn't overly interested in sports and would rather lose herself in a good book.
We have a rather mixed family. What I believe is referred to as a modern day brady bunch. I have a son who has recently turned 17 who grew up with my parents in Qld. Tiffany was born during my very disasterous first marriage. Eddie and Tasha are Becker's and mine while Becker has 2 children from his previous marriage, a son nearly 13 and a daughter 9. Tiffany also has another half brother and sister in Qld from her father's current relationship. Makes xmas shopping a bitch let me tell you!
If you have managed to snooze your way this far then send yourself off to bed. Anything else there may be to know about me may or may not come up if and as and when I get a chance to post lol
Take care all and blessed be.
Angel
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